For context, I am currently a student in college living with my sweet baby girl (cat tax attached). There is a possibility that I will be moving back in with my family for a bit, and they have always been dog people (our whole family is allergic, and I was too when I was younger, but I grew out of it).
When talking about having my cat live in the house, my parents were incessant about having her declawed due to them hearing stories about dogs losing their eyes from a cat scratch (I counter it with I have heard about when dogs have killed cats, the behavioral and health issues declawing would cause, the pain it would put my cat in, etc).
But they still wouldn’t listen, they insisted that it would be fine but it genuinely makes me sick even thinking about putting my baby through that.
They made me buy cat claw caps and I am planning on slowly training her into wearing them comfortably but I still cannot get through to them that declawing is inhumane. I equated it to debarking (which also is insane, neither debarking or declawing should be legal ANYWHERE) but they think that dogs are angels and that cats are “assholes.” To be fair they have always had a problem with boundaries (moved across country for college lol) so it makes sense they think that cats are assholes if they don’t immediately want to cuddle with them.
I am unwavering in the fact that I will never have my babygirl declawed, but they always keep on referencing how both of our aunts cats have been declawed and they have been “fine” (honestly not really, the few times i interacted with said cats they have been very aggressive towards humans and dogs, but my parents don’t see that).
How do I get through to them that even if those cats seemed fine, it is still so insanely inhumane. Also they never spent more than a few hours with those cats so they don’t know their behavior at all.
I have explained how cats walk on their toes, how she’ll have problems using her litter box, how it’s equivalent to taking off a humans finger off at the knuckle.
Like yeah if I wasn’t able to grasp or use my hands in the way that I haven’t my entire life, I would be aggressive and bite too.
Honestly this is kind of a rant I’m sorry, but I would like some advice on how to get them to understand that declawing is inhumane (tbh they support putting children in cages so like I can’t even say i’m surprised) and that cats aren’t assholes.
they’re just biased towards dogs and that shouldn’t mean that it’s “fine” for cats to be declawed when our dogs can do whatever they want (I love our dogs so much don’t get me wrong, but they put them on a pedestal above my cat and it makes me angry because they think dogs have some superiority while the dogs don’t have any recall and don’t really listen to 2/3 of their commands, and that’s supposed to be “fine”)
once again I love my dogs, they’re my babies as well, and obviously they aren’t aggressive or reactive or else I wouldn’t even think about putting them in the same house, but I love my cat too. She is my baby and I’m not going to let her go through that torture just for the convenience of my parents.